Anonymous|09.10.2013|Feature News
We’ve got the porn star and psychologist views on porn, now find out what a young person thinks.

We’ve all experienced it before—the primal look in her eyes, the outstanding flexibility and stamina that reminds you of an Olympic gymnast, or maybe it was that ever-secret fantasy coming true in the unlikeliest of places. There’s no denying that all these attributes make for a great porn video, but are things slightly different when we make the transition from porn fantasy to the bedroom?

During my pubescent years, I noticed that reality didn’t always correlate with the well-scripted world of pornography. Whilst porn is becoming the norm in the lives of young men, does it provide misinformation about sexual activities in reality? I believe that at times, porn can place great burdens on both the individuals who watch it, as well as those who don’t.

For young girls who are relatively inexperienced in the sex department, it’s possible they can have initial feelings of reluctance, disgust, and degradation about the sexual acts that they’re asked to perform. These issues can stem from the demands of young men who project mentalities, which have been conditioned by the porn industry. Equally for young men, they can find themselves trying to reach the unrealistic heights of male porn stars, which can result in feelings of inadequacy when unattained.

I’m fully aware of porn’s negative impact, but we shouldn’t underestimate its usefulness for both teenagers and parents. Coming from an African household, talk of sex in my home is like trying to wear socks with sandals (IT JUST DOES NOT WORK!). So, porn was an educational tool, which enabled me to learn about all the different sexual encounters whilst avoiding a public stoning from my parents.

Equally, porn is a get-out-of jail-free card for parents, with regards to that oh-so awkward “birds and bees” talk. It has allowed parents to shift this dreaded burden into the hands of the internet, whilst enabling them to maintain a utopia where sex doesn’t co-exist with their innocent young ones.

Like anything in life, the educational value of porn has its pros and cons and whilst it’s something that affects most of our lives, it should be treated with caution.

Click here for the porn star’s perspective

Click here for the psychologist’s perspective

 

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