Hannah Witton, a member of our Someone Like Me Global Crew, explains…
Casual sex can come in many forms: one-night stands, flings, dating, friends with benefits—any kind of sex that happens outside of a non-casual relationship, I guess.
I have been mostly single for the past 2 and a half years now. However, my relationship status doesn’t determine whether or not I’m having sex. Over the past 2 to 3 years I’ve had a few flings, the odd one-night stand, one friend with benefits situation and also not to forget, one boyfriend.
For me, it’s not the case that I prefer being single and having casual sex over having a boyfriend (if anything I’d be having more sex if I was in a relationship!) but I just haven’t found someone that I want to be in a relationship with and make that commitment. Until I do, I’m perfectly happy – and see nothing wrong with – having casual sex.
I’ve mostly had really good experiences and there’s only been one person who I felt it was awkward with afterwards, but I’m the type of person who doesn’t let it bother me. Whatever my relationship with a person, sex is still something that’s really special and important.
I’m still in contact with or friends with people I’ve slept with and it’s a nice feeling that we both know we shared that connection once but can happily move on, we may even be able to share some in-jokes. This might not be the case for everyone, some people want to forget their one-night stands and flings, I like to think of it as making new friends just in a slightly different way.
Just to clarify, I do have friends with whom I haven’t had sex. My friends don’t really care about how many people I’ve slept with, they mainly care about if what I’m doing is making me happy, and it’s definitely not making me sad. If anyone does judge me for my actions then they’re not vocal about it and as cliché as it sounds “the people that mind don’t matter, and the people that matter don’t mind.”
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Do you agree with Hannah’s view about casual sex?